Good Reasons

I don't know who decided you have to do things for yourself. The idea that you have to be the reason you improve is simple and asinine. A woman can and sometimes should be the reason a man does things. Sometimes it's the only reason and that's fine. It's how it should be. That's like saying a father or mother shouldn't change their behavior because they became a parent. They'll all tell you you're crazy. If a person is in love with another person then they're going to make changes in their life and personality. It's a natural occurrence and all these shitty self help books have made it a bad thing. A single man is going to act much differently than a man in a relationship. A man in a relationship is going to change many of his behaviors. It's out of respect and anyone who isn't willing to change for the person they love is selfish and probably not in love. If you believe that the only reason a person should quit drugs or some other destructive behavior is for themselves and not because they're in love with someone who it's hurting then you've bought into this ridiculous idea. Changing and bettering yourself for someone you love isn't depending on them, it's not being so weak and dependent that you can't do it on your own, it's showing that the other person is important to you. If you can't do it on your own then having someone as a reason important enough is good. Changing for a spouse, children, or other loved one isn't weakness, it's finding where your strength is. It upsets me that people have come to believe the lie that it's bad to need someone. We are built to need each other. Humans are communal creatures and naturally inclined to love and be faithful. Despite what you might see or hear on NatGeo men aren't built to be promiscuous that's why it eats at a man's soul when he is. We are meant to have a woman we love and that woman is our reason for many of our behaviors. We need to have a reason for the things we do and we need to have a reason to change the things we do. Whatever crackpot started the theory that this is bad has ruined many men. I'm either unwilling or unable to change my behaviors on my own. I act a certain way because it's what I'm used to and when I have a reason to act differently then my behavior will change. Men and women please take note, if you are the reason a person improves themselves then you are loved and needed. Don't pressure yourselves, it's about love and it's a good thing despite what we've been told by self help gurus.